Suggestions For Helping Yourself Through Grief

·                 Go gently. Don’t rush too much. Your body needs energy for repair 
·                 Don’t take on new responsibilities right away. Don’t overextend yourself. 
·                 Keep decision making to a minimum 
·                 Try to accept help and support when offered 
·                 Ask for help. No one can read your mind. It’s very important to find someone who cares, understands, and with whom you may talk freely. 
·                 It’s ok to need comforting. 
·                 Be patient with yourself. 
·                 Seek the support of others. Invite a relative/friend for dinner or overnight. Also, consider meeting new people. 
·                 Lean into the pain. It cannot be outrun. 
·                 Let the grief/healing process run its full course. 
·                 Through this emotional period, it’s ok to feel depressed. Crying does make you feel better. 
·                 If Sundays, holidays, etc, are especially difficult times, schedule activities that you find particularly comforting. 
·                 Seek the help of a counselor or clergy person if you feel the need 
·                 Try to get adequate rest. Go to bed earlier. Avoid caffeine 
·                 Good nutrition is important:  decrease junk food & eat balanced meals 
·                 Keep a journal. It’s a good way to understand what you’re feeling and thinking. Re-read it later and see how you’re doing and progressing. 
·                 Read – there are many helpful books on grief. When grief is understood, it’s a little easier to handle. 
·                 Exercise – it offers an opportunity to work off frustration and aids sleep. 
·                 Try to socialize with family and friends. Don’t feel guilty if you have a good time. Your loved one would want you to be happy.

(Simplified Chinese)

助您擺脫悲傷陰霾的幾條建議

 

• 凡事從容不迫。切忌操之過急。精力充沛以求身心健康。

• 不要立刻接手新工作。不要承擔過多責任。

 

• 儘量少做決策。

• 嘗試著接受別人幫助與支持

 

• 求助於他人。沒人能讀懂你的心思。結交那些關心、理解幷且能與之傾心交流的人們，這點甚爲重要。

• 接受別人的安慰不是壞事。

 

• 對自己須有耐心。

• 尋求他人的支持。邀請家人/朋友吃晚飯或夜談。另外，你可考慮認識新朋友。

 

• 重視痛苦情緒。勿要過久地沈浸在痛苦中。

• 不妨體驗悲傷/心情平復全過程。

 

• 在此情緒發展過程中，感覺沮喪也無妨。痛哭流涕確能助你感覺好些。

• 如果感覺周日、假日等特別難捱，不妨嘗試安排一些能對你起到很好安慰作用的活動。

 

• 如有必要，你可以諮詢心理顧問或牧師以獲得幫助。

• 保證充足休息。早早上床睡覺。遠離咖啡因

 

• 保證營養很重要：少吃垃圾食品，保持平衡飲食

• 將情緒情況記錄下來。瞭解自己所思所想很有幫助。過後重新對照記錄看你做得怎麽樣，是否有進步。

 

• 閱讀——有許多對減輕悲傷情緒有幫助的專著。瞭解悲傷情緒，擺脫起來更容易。

• 運動——幫助你忘掉沮喪並有助睡眠。

 

• 與家人、朋友多打交道。忘形玩樂不必難堪。你的親人亦希望你快樂無憂。